Well those are some surprising responses. I mean, I completely agree, but I was pretty sure I fell way off the lenient end of the spectrum with all my crazy-talk about mutual respect and trust.

Trouble is that I have a challenge in getting somewhere close to the same page with my H. We're so far apart.

Maybe S16 and I collaborate to come up with what we consider a reasonable accommodation, if possible, of H's need for comfort and information (aka control). Will think on that.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.