Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden on you guys

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[11/06 15:55] *ME*: Im in a state where if you want to stay with me I will do all I can to make you happy and love you til eternity, if you dont then I wont stop you, but I wont try and keep u no more. Theres no more of me trying all im going to do is change for myself and better myself as a person. And ive been trying to do that which im very proud of myself for. I am not doing anything for you anymore.. im here if you need me.. im here if you want me.. but I wont be here forever unless you choose to be with me.. the choice is yours

Whoa. Stop.
You have just pushed yourself off a cliff and are trying to change directions.

She has a hard time hearing the "i'm changing " when you are pleading " i will do all I can to make you happy" and then ending it with an ultimatum "...but the choice is yours". Thats alot of pressure.

Now that you have gotten all that off your chest you have to live by the DB rules or there is no point coming here.
Trying not to sound like a broken record but you have heard this from your loyal db fan base

Being needy is the opposite of what a woman wants. You DETACH and exude strength, confidence, show her you have a clear direction without her (like your GALing). Why do you think everyone wants to be Jason Bourne, Braveheart, James Bond? Does the needy whiny guy ever get the girl? It repulses her and the other guys kick these wimps to the back of the room.

Sharpie this on your bathroom mirror...heck all over the place:

11. Do not say "I Love You" (It is being "pushy" and trying to make your spouse say it back to you......he/she will despise you for it.)

12. Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude.

This is your bible. She knows you love her...and that you are smothering her. It is tough but read some CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy)books and find a way to get a grip on your obsessing pining thoughts for her. Now man up. You can do this.