Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[rayzzz]

so here's what happened yesterday:

Talking about separation to kids

WAW & I had a little meeting just before telling the kids about our separation. We went through some of our script and then she asked me "So where are things between us?" and for the first time I held my db cool and said "I'm just just doing alot of thinking about us right now and dont really feel comfortable giving you an answer". She pressed a bit more and then retreated into saying that its better for us, she thinks if we just stay "partners, co partners/friends" because its just to hard on her, all of this "swirl" of emotions she feels about us. and then we worked on the sample kids question if they ask "So are we getting a divorce?" and she said both times in practice and in our real talk: "We are just separating for now" and then D6 asked "So are we ever going to live together in the same house?"
and WAW answered "I don't know". WINNING! I found out later that she skyped a good friend of ours(her bridesmaid) and talked with her for two hours yesterday....think WAW may have finally got a good perspective from someone who was not one of her D friends.

So gonna take a deep breath but my LRT and 180s are giving me a little bit of light to slowly and steadily march towards.

Now here's the script we used:

We were both very strong and calm and empathized with sadness but did not break...a little misty eyed but lots of just being fully present in love. We both told them at noon and took the rest of the day off so we could be there for them...having a junkfoodfest and watching family movies...something we haven't done in months....ok here we go

"We are a family...sometimes families live in two different houses. Daddy and Mommy will always be your parents and we love each other. We will still get together for some special times (we will still go to ballet,church..)but we have big problems that we need to work on separately, so that is why we are separating.
(me) I love mommy more than anyone else in the world and I promise I will be a better daddy to mommy and a better friend to mommy
(WAW) In order to save our friendship and because it is best for us and will help us love each other more...these are the reasons we are separating"

Now my kids have a degree of peace on them everyone has been praying on and comment on all the time. I expected more of a freak out. There were tears but the loudest my S4 who did not want to move from this house! D6 (the quietest) cried "Does that mean we will have no more Daddy dates?(kids &WAW moving in with parents) D6 was the one who asked us about if we were going to live together again....and my sweet little trooper D8...she just knew this was the elephant in the room since WAW and I have been avoiding each other for three months...I know she was crushed but also relieved...just cried softly and after some hugs twice said the most profound things to me (totally did not share this with WAW cause it may reinforce D)

"Dad, I'm glad you made the right decision for you and mom"
"Dad I think you and mom are making the right choice for us"

Dumbstruck. she is just so trusting in us...but I know the reality will really hit as we move and loss will set in but such wisdom from my little girl.

My family therapist friend i debriefed with encouraged me that modeling peace in conflict and being calm and cool in challenges paves the way for your children to live that way as well, making big deposits of healthy character. PTL so blessed that bringing healthy to myself will really spill over to my kids and every aspect of life. I will hide this away in hard times, with WAW and other challenges.

For me, I am out to a board meeting (its volunteer with new friends so I consider it a GAL) some job hunting and maybe some outside playground time with kids.