I'd like to circle back to your 'goals' in your previous posting. It is all about H and you cannot control H's actions. Scratch them. Write the goals that are about you because that's within your control.

Haha. I so knew someone would call me out on this! Although I must admit that I am a bit confused because in the DBing book it seems a lot of goals do read this way (about the other person). Then I thought that well maybe that's the difference between goals versus the actions I will take to achieve those goals. So if one of my goals is to physically re-attrack H then obviously being angry, hostile, cold is not going to help me with that goal. So anger management becomes a key action to achieve my overarching goal. Does that make sense?

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14