Your anger is coloring events. Sounds like the phone thing really sent you over the edge...but you wanted D to have a phone right? And now she has a phone right? Let go of the anger over the past phone dispute and the present interpretation of phone motivations because that stuff helps no one. It's a phone, put it in the whatever category. It should not be the thing that sends you over the edge, gloves off, no holds barred...detach.
Also. You get to choose. You got a cr*ppy deal, it makes no sense, and you can't fix it. You want to fixate on that and be miserable there's a world of people who will support you in that and rail against the universe with you. Will do no good whatsoever. You can rise above, look for the good, release the bad, and do the best you can NOT to be miserable, and have a good life and be a great model for your kids. It is 100% your choice and has no relation to what your W does or why or how it makes no sense and is wrong. The world doesn't conspire to make YOU happy, it just exists, happy comes from inside you. I would suggest happy not even being the right word, it's joy and peace, in my opinion.
It's my goal and I'm not always moving toward it either, but it's a lot easier to spot in others and that gets me back on track. Best of luck to you, keep doing the next right thing.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
