I think he's taking steps, very little baby steps, towards reconciling but obviously not fully there yet. It's really frustrating.
Focus on the positive. Your frustration stems from your own impatience at the pace of H's reconnection to you. The M fell apart over time and it will take time for Humpty to be put back together. One piece at a time. There's a million of them on the floor.
Sit on the discomfort and talk to yourself on why you're feeling so much frustration, anger, and impatience. Dig deep and work through them one by one.
Then start focusing on the positives. The more you focus on them, more it expands. That's the Law of Attraction.
I'd like to circle back to your 'goals' in your previous posting. It is all about H and you cannot control H's actions. Scratch them. Write the goals that are about you because that's within your control.
