Thanks willb, I hope things work out OK for you. Sorry to hear that you think H is long gone. I just don't get how they can do these things and hurt so many.
My W keeps saying that it's our home that's "unhappy". She has wanted to move for some time as have I but we just couldn't afford to with both the kids in private school and now my not making much yet in new job. The thing is she is weird about it. She never wants to have people over and is embarrest by where we live. Look, it's small, older and not the nicest house but it's the only home my kids have ever known. The only thing that makes it "unhappy" is her! Why can't she see that happiness comes from inside herself, not from where she lives or from someone else. We didn't promise to make the other happy in our vows because it's not possible to do that no matter how hard we try.
My world is forever changed in such bad ways now. I don't know how I'm going to make enough money to survive yet, let alone feed my kids and take care of the animals. For my W to do this the way she has is so wrong in so many ways and she keeps piling on like I have so wronged her. She knows I never did anything to hurt her. I never cheated, never lied. Tried to be the best H I could yet doesn't seem to care about anything but her.
Sorry, just a bit upset this morning. Didn't mean to go on a rant!
