Thanks Cadet, I agree with everything you noted (though I don't know what 'GAL' is!!!)and am working my way through detaching and the 37 rules, i slip and fall sometimes but always get up and restart, i have accepted this 'gift of time' and am even grateful for it in a way but can't seem to stop myself snooping, I have found out so much about what he is doing and am not sure what to do with this information. I mentioned to Starsky that i had replied to him and have posted further info on my story but I don't see my further posts /replies anywhere (sent a few days ago!). Am i in the right place? Am i doing this correctly? Take care, Sonas
