WH, This is so typical... mine did/does the same thing over EVERY little detail.
Idk what you can do to deal with it - I am constantly amazed at how manipulative my xh is.
Mlc-ers seem to work the angles on everything so that we feel powerless to get what should be basic givens. They're like savants - and their special skill is working up super-tricky power struggles over everything.
So, no wisdom to impart, just a lot of sympathy.
I've been backed into so many corners by this sort of manipulation around settlement issues.
