WH I suspect that this isn't about money at all but about control.

Your lawyer knows you cannot afford it to go to trial. Be guided by what he/she says in this.

Without sounding paranoid (I hope) these MLCers like yours and mine are very good at finding loopholes which they exploit to freak us out.

The bottom line is that you have to have this in writing - if he can't refinance the house, how can he afford it to go to trial?

If the house doesn't sell that is his problem, not yours. They bully and push. I have no idea why.

Stand firm and I suspect he will capitulate, but I do know, believe me, how stressful that is.