I'm so sorry Matt. I can't imagine how frustrating your W behavior is to deal with. Especially with children involved. It sounds like you are doing a lot of things right. Keep being the solid rock for your D's. I always believe in honesty. My S is only 7 and I am always honest when he asks questions. I always tell him never give up on what you believe in. I have a strong feeling your W will not find happiness by leaving home. I hope she will wake up and appreciate what she is leaving.
Hang in there
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-