KGirl - Movin' On and Out!

[KGirl]

GB: "I hope you reconcile with your h if that's what you truly want."

This idea came up in IC yesterday, and I'm still struggling with how I feel about it. My IC said something like "is it possible that maybe this could be a good thing, and could allow you to find someone else that does meet your needs? And have a better relationship than you could have with H?" I know it's good for him to challenge me but I haven't quite gotten to thinking more seriously about that/if this is truly what I want. I mean, could there be someone out there that's "better?" Probably, yeah. But if you're always looking for what's better, you'll never stop looking. There has to be a point where you say "this is pretty good, let's stop here." I thought that's where I was at w/ my H after 7ish years of dating when we got engaged. I don't think I want to reconcile if it means H is exactly the same as he was before. But I think I would if he also grew through this process, learned more about understanding other people's needs and meeting them, etc. I just feel like I made this commitment, and I don't want to toss it just because there may be something better out there. My IC is also pushing for me to set a timeline of how long I want to live like this: "What if he never takes action? How long is it OK for you to wait? 6 months? a year? 2 years?" I mean, H outright said that his MO is just to wait for me to take care of things 'cause he knows I will eventually. I honestly hope it will just come to me over time without having to set a deadline.