I'm reading this and nodding in understanding. My ex behaves EXACTLY the same way. Out of control. Everything is all about him. He is not polite. He is not respectful. He flies off the handle at the slightest provocation. And everyone avoids him. Sad but true.
It is good that your son is telling you. And making his own choices about his R with his dad and setting his own boundaries.
I thought after all the drama of our split - my ex would finally settle down and become someone I could at least co-parent with. But sadly - he has not improved with age. We limit our conversations to a few lines of text about visitation a few times a year. And at least once a year he flips out about something minor despite the fact he does nothing to help with our disabled son. It is not fun!
The only thing you can really do is listen to and support your son. Be there for him. It is good that he recognizes that he does not want to behave like his dad.
