Yes, the WAS will always make up something in their mind to justify their behavior because otherwise, how is your H going to live with himself? ("I left my pregnant wife to have an affair because I'm just a douchebag" said no one, ever.)
The better a spouse you were, the more they have to reach for a justification.
My ex said I walked too heavy - and I TAUGHT our daughter to walk too heavy! How insane is that???
One woman here, her husband told her it was because she got too fat. Except she was like 5'9" and 125 lbs!!!
Sometimes too there's a LOT of projection involved - just substitute "I" everywhere he says "she" and see if it makes more sense to you (i.e. "I had to leave because I'm a bad dad").
If he ever recovers, he'll deny he ever said any of it - and truthfully, he won't remember!
You already know he's a serial cheater and a scumbag who didn't even try to save either of his marriages. Don't give him any more credence or space in your head. Just move on along.
This makes total sense. Mine talks of how nasty hurt full and I held a gun to his head and made him spend money!
It's true that none of them will ever take responsibility for there side of the street nor think they are the douche bag, that they remotely contributed at all.
Last edited by Ggrass; 06/11/1402:07 AM.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
