"I asked why did she not tell me and she said it was because she knew id try tagging along."
And what does that tell you?
That tells me that im a chaser and she doesnt feel comfortable about telling me anything because she thinks im paranoid or suspicious.. but is this her being honest or is she lieing and seeing someone?
I hear that women dont leave until they find someone else.
That tells me that im a chaser and she doesnt feel comfortable about telling me anything because she thinks im paranoid or suspicious
And what are you going to do about this?
As things currently stand, not only are you pushing her away, you may as well be the one going out, finding a guy and introducing him to her. That's how pushy and controlling you are being. You can stop this. You can do it. It is within you. We all believe in you. You need to start believing in yourself and show some trust in those who have been through this before you. Read the rules, live the rules and read the damn book!
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
Brother I am reading it right now but she is so off with me today has not spoken to me at all because I lost the wrench to fix our bed.. well she thinks she gave it to me.. ever since I confronted her about the wednesday we been off.. when things were actually going good.
You will see some changes but you have to put in the work and be patient. Ignore your wife's bad mood and focus on the Rules and books for now.
And if you find a wrench, fix the bed and DON'T mention it to your wife. Just go about your business quietly.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
So what I should do is really detach from her and let her assume the role of the chaser.. try to get her out of my mind like as if she never existed and as if im living by myself.. if she comes to me then treat her like my best friend.. someone I wouldnt check up on n let them do whatever they want but still care for them and show love but nothing romantic?
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
But is this not going to make it easier for her to leave? Im so weak damn whys it so hard.. guys me saying this and doing is a complete different story I feel I will fail within a day.
"But is this not going to make it easier for her to leave?"
So why don't you go ahead and chain her at home? That's essentially what you're doing. She's asking for space and you're saying that you're not going to give it to her. What do you think she's going to do next?
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"But is this not going to make it easier for her to leave?"
So why don't you go ahead and chain her at home? That's essentially what you're doing. She's asking for space and you're saying that you're not going to give it to her. What do you think she's going to do next?
ok I will go on your words mrbond and do this.
My goals are now: Dont question her whereabouts Dont ask her any questions Dont text her unless she txts me Dont call her give her space and time Dont do anything romantic such as going for a kiss or hugging her or hold her at night
