EE I remember you writing to me about it but have been through threads and can't find it..
this is not the man to tell anything to.. I agree some talk therapy about letting go and not obsessing on the bad things people are planning to do to you might help.. a lot. But he thinks there is nothing wrong with him.. maybe I should record him next time.. he sounds just like his father !!!!
Me .I found myself a counselor and have worked through why I am so controlling, why I am anxious when I can see people making potential mistakes, why I would rather do EVERYTHING than let any one else do it.. so it is done properly.
Lot of very old issues but I am getting better . Have done a tonne of reading.. DB but also the solo Partner has helped. so I do not organise and control and manage.. I have developed a strategy to slow down my old reactions to old issues.. and it actually worked on the weekend.. My H is clearer about things I do that are annoying.. like repeating myself when I feel it is important ( teacher habit!)
I am in a better place..but still want to be married to him.. which could be a fruitless goal..
