Also, in regards to "if he walks that may be a breaking point." He has already walked-just not physically.
Yep. BINGO.
You are getting some great advice. I also just wanted to point out that you don't have to decide today what will cause you to stop standing. If you had asked me three years ago, I would have told you that I would never have put up with the crap that my H put me through. You never know how you will feel until you are faced with the situation.
