Underdog: "I can tell you from hard experience, that my XH told me that my body and facial expressions told him exactly what I was about, and he instinctively knew that I would seize on any opportunity to press my agenda that I could - so he just avoided me and any manner of talking to me he could. In fact, he would go out of his way to say really awful things just to ensure that I'd leave him alone."
This ^^^^ exactly. What my H said to me, and exactly what he did to shut me up about what "I" wanted.
I do NOT hide it well, not when I'm hurt or it's important. Probably you don't either. Because it is really important to you. And your wife knows this from previous discussions.
She knows things are different between you in the ML department, she probably doesn't need to be reminded of how bad that feels.
I think the more we care, the harder it is to hide this from our spouse.
That's why detaching (from them, from our own agenda) is so important.
Those "unhappy vibes" get communicated to our spouse, whether we like it or not.
---GG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
