Buy time for what? I suggest forgetting about figuring out your h. That's for him to do. And whether he does it or not, no one knows.
3 weeks apart can be a very good thing for you. Your M as you know it is dead. Put a fork in it. I don't say that to be harsh--just an honest assessment.
Is your h involved with the kids?
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer