Hurt and Confussed

[oad]

Thornton...thanks for the reply...I read it a lot, hard to follow all of them but with discipline im doing ok.

Grey we are dammed if we do and dammed if we don't..seems like the idea is to just be indifferent and avoid all conflicts..easier said than done..lol

[Cadet]

It sounds like you are taking the anger personally.

Did you ever think maybe she is just angry at herself and you are the best and closest person to take it out on.

How is the LRT going?

[oad]

Cadet...you are correct...I have been taking it personally, its hard not too, but that is where I need to understand and not fight back, the LRT for the last week has been going good I think, I accomplished one tiny goal which was for us to communicate something other than the girls. I updated in previous posts how my SICH is going...it seems she is in full blown grass is greener mode.

[Cadet]

Well if you came upon a wounded animal at the side of the road that seemed to be very angry, what would you do?

I hope you would NOT try to scoop it up and take it to a vet.

But maybe you would detach and leave it alone to try to heal itself.

Same analogy here for your wife.

[oad]

I got ya....just keep contact about the children only...whenever I go get the kids im always in good spirits and I keep my interactions with her to a minimum, it seems to be working out pretty well. Cadet my first thought when I read your post was to put it out of its misery...lol Just kidding.

[oad]

Well today im having a bad day....just sad and feeling anxious. Gonna go to a friends and get my mind off this WAW. urgggggghhhh

[oad]

well my wife is really hell bent on divorce...shes acting like she has all the money in the world...but her account is almost empty..she keeps saying that she lost her connection with me and for now this is what she wants...im still in full blown LRT, but we just seem to be on the holding pattern for her to file.

[BonitaL]

Wow, did she actually say, "for now this is what she wants?" Sounds like she is trying to keep the door open.

[oad]

yes she did...also said divorce is just a piece of paper...if she changes her mind she said she can always reverse it..thats when I decided to go dark on her and throw the LRT on her...

[Cadet]

yes she did...also said divorce is just a piece of paper...if she changes her mind she said she can always reverse it..thats when I decided to go dark on her and throw the LRT on her...

Yea if you are still around that is.