1Wish, I can tell you that I'm in a similar scenario in that my WAW gave me the 'we got married too young' line. She's also trying to figure out who she is and what she wants out of life. I was 22 and she was 19 when we married 15 years ago. Initially I had the same reaction and that was 15 years into our marriage! How do you not know 'who' you are by then?? Looking back on it now, we were too young, even though we both wanted to be married. You go through so many life experiences in your 20's that you're start to realize who you are and what you want out of life.
The best advice I can give you is to give her some space/time. In the meantime, GAL- figure out what makes you happy (outside of W). Your hope now is that by giving W space/time, she'll come to realize that she wants to be with you. Trust me, pressuring her to stay or for a decision will only push her further away.
What happens if she enjoys it too much?
We dont have kids yet but I hear WAW even leave with kids in tact.. mine has hardly any reason to stay.. she even told me that if I was the best husband ever she still doesnt know if she'll stay... she tells me thay she just wants to be alone but doesnt know if shes making a mistake n if she stays its for my sake.
I could let her go but I will not come back, thats not fair on me not fair at all.. do I not deserve happiness? Yes I mucked up but end of the day I changed to make amends and did it work no its not working.. she wants to go she can go doors fully open.. I want her to stay but I know I dont need her.. its a preference and to be honest if shes going to be cold towards me then whats the point of it all?
I love her to bits but I somehow feel im growing distant from her.. shes been harsh like when I begged pleaded and tried reassuring her with promises.. she spat on my face.. she scarred me with scratches.. she bruised me with punches.. she slapped me across my face.. she wished death upon me and my family and my baby niece who is 3yrs old.
And like a fool I still want her. If she stays ill do my best to keep her happy if she goes ill resent her.. but I cant hate people im just not like that..
