RPPFL - I am so sorry that you are here. Stick with the boards. The one thing that I have learned is that I may not be able to save my M, but I have save me.
Your sitch is similar to mine. I have a full time job, three kids. I knew that we had problems, but was blindsided when my H took his bags and moved out. We had been in MC but it was clear that he did not want to be there. Things actually improved a bit once he was gone. He was not so angry.
The hardest thing to learn is that there is not one thing that you will do to bring him back or make him go for good. Just focus on yourself and let your H be. He will live in his fantasy land regardless of whether you call. The harder I tried to reason with my H or get close to him or bring him back into reality, the further he ran in the opposite direction.
Even if it is hard, enjoy your trip with your kids. Leave your H alone and dont communicate with him unless it is absolutely necessary. I never call my H. I communication with him about the kids via text/email. Right after BD, H would get pissed if I called because he thought I was trying to snoop and track him down. So I just stopped and still dont call him. It was the one boundary that I was able to follow and it stopped me from pursing him.
Take one day at a time. In the beginning, I literally printed out a calendar and crossed off the days that I did not pursue, cry and beg. It got easy every day that passed. Since I work and have three little kids, I made plans in advance, started IC, took yoga and now I am doing golf lessons. You will start felling like RPPFL again, not just a wife, employee or mommy. It will give you the strength to keep moving forward.
