Wow. I'm gonna be honest. THAT was a disaster. As MrBond said, you're not listening. To your wife and to us. Please, please, PLEASE try to understand that everyone here has been in your shoes and we are trying to HELP you. If you want to get somewhere with your situation, and more importantly, your life overall, you really need to start listening, ESPECIALLY to MrBond and 25mlc.
Do yourself a favour and read the 37 rules RIGHT NOW. Read them, re-read them and START FOLLOWING THEM. NOW! Also, read the bloody books pronto!
It's hard. It's very hard. We KNOW how you feel and we're all sorry that you feel this way. You CAN do this. You need to show some self-control though, not for us, not for your wife, but for YOU.
As for your response to my questions, what did you do for yourself before and at the time of meeting your future wife? You had your own life, right? You didn't just go to work, right? What did you do outside of work while you weren't with your wife? What were you interested in?
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
