Thanks CSan, Hope and bashy for your reply. hope- great advice. I will continue on with my DBing.
bashy-- I've been thinking about sharing those thoughts with him for a while. And I don't know-- I just decided to experiment. I haven't brought up ANY R talk in several months. And I went into the conversation with no expectations. I just wanted to tell him something I had realized about myself and our M, but I had no expectation of how he would respond. If he had responded negatively, I would have said something validating and switch the subject.