I'm sorry everyone seems so mad W knows I'm posting. She's the one who encouraged me to post and work things out. Gf knows I'm posting ( not crazy about it) but understands I am working through a process. I have twice now, said that this forum is probably not right for me. Thanked everyone for there insight and twice now everyone encouraged me to stay and not to worry and to work on self. Just words people?? Wow I guess!!