me too, engineer, R+D, and yes, my experience has been that we are generally in demand (knock on wood...). Heck, that is what I was doing in Adelaide, working as an engineer at a small chemical company!
That would really be a breakthrough - for him to see that he can change his situation - to feel free - perhaps we should work on helping him with that, as it seems a major blockage. I don't know how one could help him see that, though.
It is funny because I feel like a broken record, but EE would help him, I think, with this getting unstuck. That was my problem (being stuck in a lousy marriage), and I felt wonderfully unburdened and happy for going to EE, flowing, open, surrounded by good people that care. People change and bloom there - you should see their faces - it is wonderful.
Good on you for facilitating his communicating - that is healing for him - if only the fool could see that your doing this is yet another way of loving him!
Of course, you need to reflect on yourself too. What needs to change there? What is Lou not happy with about herself? Could Lou be a better person in her M?
Global warming is making BRD unpleasant in the summer - I need to go to even hotter Budapest in late July - will then maybe spend a few days after at the not too far away to drive Plitvice National Park in Croatia (there is a gorgeous marathon and half there!).
