You can't know what she was thinking. It could be that she feels guilty, so she's asking questions. It could be that she thought it was awkward to text after so long and then make it just about her stuff. It could be that she's confused and misses you. You don't know.
So, take it as a positive interaction, but don't develop any expectations from that basis. I've spent entirely too much time in my head over the past several months wondering what my H was thinking. Really, it was just a colossal waste of time.
When in doubt...stay DARK! DARK can NEVER hurt you Thorn, it's your safe haven...think of it that way. It can never hurt you.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
She was asking lots of questions about me and I portrayed myself as doing fine and staying busy. She asked about my job, told her about my upcoming promotion, she said congratulations!
When I asked how she was doing, she replied. "Im doing ok. Adjusting. Life feels weird".
I know I shouldn't mind read but someone throw me a bone!
I would think that if all she wanted was her things that she would of not asked me any personal questions...
Well she does care about you I'm sure...it's not so much WHAT she says in my opinion...it's the fact she contacted you on her own to say anything that counts here. Remember, WAW's make no sense...one minute they are pining, the next they are I am woman hear me roar. You did the right thing...and hopefully it was you that ended the communication before she did by saying something like "well I have to run" or something.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
You know it is. I've read your posts on other threads. What advice would you give if someone else was asking?
me: 45 W:45 M 20 years T 22 years S14, S13, S11, D9 BD 2/28/14 D papers served 3/3/14 I moved out 3/15/14 MC start 4/2/14 I moved in 6/2/14 D suit withdrawn 6/30/14
I guess Im just super anxious right now Nettles. Its been a long time since Ive heard a peep from her. It's good to hear reassurance from you guys and gives me a little boost.
Your feelings of anxiousness are normal. You've been working on having no expectations. You've been NC for a while. For her to contact you out of the blue shakes things up.
Nettles is right. You give good advice on other threads. So, you know not to start pursuing/applying pressure because of one interaction.
Yes that's good because even something as minor as a reply smiley still unconsciously sends the message to her that you are always going to wait for her to end interaction...she imagines it that way on an even grander scale...in other words...don't let her think she can have you back any time she wants. That's what I am doing with my WAW. I am no woman's pawn. You either dig me 100% or I won't just let you walk...I'll kick ya' in the backside to help you along.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
