It just is so confusing at some points. I give my W the space she requests for 6 months by moving to my parents house for a while. In that time I work on myself to become a man only a fool would leave.
When I thought I was ready and could handle it I moved back to the M home. W put up quite a ruckus. I was able to handle it well and have been for the last 6 months.
I moved back for me and if a by-product was a chance at a new R then great if not then at least I am in my home and not my childhood bedroom.
She said way back then that I was forcing her out. I said I wasn't but if she felt like she had to leave I wouldn't stop her.
Since that time maybe a handful of instances she has said how I make her miserable and she can't stand being here with me.
The constant theme is W gets mad blurts out things and then still stays.
This time it might be different since she served me D papers about 6 weeks ago. But if it was that bad she would have left already. I guess it could be pressure from OM or she thinks if she moves out it will show him and everybody she is serious about this.
She is also mad that I haven't told people we are separated. They didn't ask so I didn't tell.
She says she has a support system behind her. I said that's great I am glad you have help. She said probably only 4 people in the world know my story about the S. I agreed that I haven't told too many people because it is between W and I not the whole world.
six weeks ago she had a close knit group that knew, very few people, now she has a support system.
I brush most things off but it is a struggle to know that even though I feel I am detached that, if she changed her mind tomorrow I could be there for her if she wanted to put in the hard work like I have to learn how to keep a M strong and loving.
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
