I'm sorry kind of hard to read through the internet and my mind isn't always on point when I'm at work. My apologies!
He knows I have no problem with him coming over and he's done it twice in the past and I've been calm cool collected no R talk no anything besides hey how are you. He says he doesn't want to be around me and it's better to avoid a problem from occurring.
He was nasty with me tonight threatening me with L taking the kids. I just replied I was not going to argue with him. I'm sorry that I work in an intensive care unit with life and death and cannot respond immediately to every text. He continued to go on about how I sometimes respond immediately when I need something but then I ignore him. I just said I'm sorry you feel that way but it's hit or miss if I have my phone on me I try to respond when it's about the kids as quick as possible but that's not always the case
I then sent him my work schedule for the next 6 weeks so there will be no isse and he can come when I am not home.