I'm chasing some advice from the vets here. I feel I've got a pretty good handle on things and a potentially touchy subject has come up. My brother's wedding is on the other side of the country next February and my brother asked if my kids could be a part of the ceremony. My wife and I were happy with this and we plan on going across together. She said she was only going to the wedding to watch the kids and with things the way they were at the time I ignored it as who knows where our relationship would be in 12 months time?
Lately, my wife appears to be thawing with me. We had a fantastic day together last Thursday, I did something nice for her on Friday just because I had a thought and not to get anything out of it (she appreciated it), and last night we watched TV together for the first time in months and shared some small talk and laughs. She's also started doing little things for me again, like making me coffee without asking if I want one rather than getting one only for herself. They're positive baby steps and I'm not getting ahead of myself. She's still very much doing her own thing.
While we were watching TV, my wife researched flights and we discussed planning the trip to lock in dates and prices. I think it's a good idea as things can change pretty quickly. We still have eight months before the wedding so we have some time up our sleeve. Where my problem is is that I won't be going to the wedding pretending to be a happy family when we aren't. Either she attends because we're a family who has problems that we're working through or I take the kids myself and my wife has her own holiday or doesn't come at all.
Is it worth bringing up now so we can plan accordingly or is there merit in leaving it and seeing how our relationship evolves?
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
