Yes, I think she does resent my bopping around the world, but that is part of my job. If I were to take a Swedish job, it would presumably be less well paid, and without as much travel.
D and W just talk, clean or do crafts together (this morning d16 helped cut strawberries for a fruit trifle W needed for school). I am not as talkative, and perhaps a bit more forbidding as a dad, though I love my d16 like mad. I offered to keep her company setting plants a few minutes ago, but she said no thanks. I only wish she knew how sad that makes me, but I do not want to impose on her. If it were me, I'd "impose" on my child. I'd hang out and help, without asking her if it's okay for her to be near the person who helped bring her into this world. Parents are "allowed" to be near their children, esp ones still living at home. That's something I feel certain of.
It'd be different if you actively irritated her. I get the feeling your offers sound as if you are offering to do her a favor, perhaps. (In which case she's more likely to say "no thanks".) Anyhow, I suggest less asking, less waiting for an invite, less waiting, MORE DOING.
Make sense?
Yeah, low level irritation is a drag - I wish they could let go of it, or express it more directly. Told d16 about thoughts of taking her to Japan, which she expressed interest in going to, over fall break - we'll see where that leads.
Luke
Why not say, with passion & enthusiasm, that you REALLY WANT TO GO TO JAPAN WITH HER, and leave it at that?
Also, you write beautifully. Your words make me want to go to Sweden.
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