Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[Ben2010]

Hey peeps,

If you are masturbating and thinking about your wife STOP IT.
You are deceiving yourself into thinking she loves you and you are reconciled when it ain't the truth unless you are actually having sex with her!! Detachment becomes ten times harder because we connect thru sex...even pretend sex. Fantasizing is wrong too, but if its just in your head you can break those thoughts easier.
I know because this vice has set me back from the advances I was making detaching.... so cut. it. out.

Am I right?

I seem to have an issue with this too. Its very hard not to do so when thats really all you want. Thought i was doing myself a favor by not looking at porn. I guess not though.