Sorry to hear your troubles and that you find yourself here.
On the other hand, it's nice to know that mature women are appreciated as sexual beings, because often men our own age don't see us that way!
I'm just going to throw a few things out there that jumped out at me:
Going through menopause. Cancer.
And maybe, just maybe---all this loving attention is a bit...too much?
I mean, it all sounds great, but in smaller doses. It's almost as if you're trying TOO hard to please, which ends up coming off needy.
Which makes us feel we have to reciprocate---and who can measure up to the standard you have set? (Did you say "Bacon-wrapped Lobster tails, a clean house AND flowers? It's the Holy Grail.)
So I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong, just that you sound really...enthusiastic! Which is a good thing.
But remember, she is older, she's been through a lot. You've got that youthful exuberance, and she is probably a bit jaded. I don't know what her past was like... but surely that's playing into this.
I'd say... chill out! Enjoy her, your time together, and try and figure out how much or little expression of your love is the "right" amount through trial and error.
And then give her a little breathing room to do some nice things for YOU.
(Then again, I'm a newbie.. but I think for me this might be a bit smothering. You sound like a great guy, though!)
