Sex was great, then we married?

[MrBond]

"then when it got to the point where I was so hurt that I said something about it, then it became a sex-only issue. I'm afraid she thinks I'm trying to use her V as a bargaining chip or something, like she owes it to me. "

But the point is that to you it has become a "sex-only" issue. That's how you've been framing your problem. I mean it's your title of this post. Most women don't deal with the sex issue very well. Especially if they feel like the spouse is pressuring them to do something they don't want to . Most, not all.