I must be nuts to still have hope

[MrBond]

I think you are confusing "bashing" and "blaming" for "the facts" and "working out the cause".

Not confusing anything at all. All I can do is comment on what you write.

"Yeah I made mistakes. The difference is that I'm mature enough to realise them and change for the better. "

See, you're bashing her by implying that she's not "mature". Those little digs which you've peppered throughout your posts here show you haven't changed much despite your numerous claims of doing so.

"Where I will surround myself with people that don't think that saving a marriage is a sign of weakness."

Again, with the passive aggressive criticisms.

"Hopefully there will be no third parties hellbent on destroying a marriage under temporary strain. Because they don't have good one's themselves."

And they keep coming from you. The comments and digs, I mean.