I admit I only skimmed your posts since I'm getting into DBing overload mode, but I can address the ADD thing, both in myself and in my husband.
I have not gotten into that in my own journaling so far, because I don't want it to seem like an excuse or a crutch. But it is a reality and it does impact things.
Feel free to reply on my thread, or on yours if you prefer, or you can send me a private message.
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?