I must be nuts to still have hope

[RedHawk98]

I think you are confusing "bashing" and "blaming" for "the facts" and "working out the cause".

I have always admitted to my faults and done what I can to rectify them.
I was left under a pack of lies and self justification from her and had to work out the real answers myself.
To this day she is still as vague as ever. And will dodge or blame external factors for her decision rather than say "I was wrong" for the slightest thing.

May I also state that I received one warning of her unhappiness. The night before the passing of my grandfather. She left we weeks after that warning.
All because her needs were not priority for a month due to my grandfathers stroke and resulting pneumonia.
"Xmas was boring", she whined to her boss. Because myself and my family greatly missed his much loved character and prescence.

Despite all her selfishness and dishonesty, I still love her. This behaviour is very out of character for her. But she will admit NO fault at all. Whereas I have taken all blame for this until recently.

Yeah I made mistakes. The difference is that I'm mature enough to realise them and change for the better. While my wife exists in some fog with a secret boyfriend she is too ashamed to admit to.

I'm moving on in weeks to another country. Where I will surround myself with people that don't think that saving a marriage is a sign of weakness. Hopefully there will be no third parties hellbent on destroying a marriage under temporary strain. Because they don't have good one's themselves.