"I am not "bashing her". Nor am I blame shifting. I am just presenting a balanced viewpoint of how a marriage can crumble."
I think you need to go back and read your posts. Many of the things that you attribute to your downfall are external situations that you act as if you had no choice in them. You always had a choice. You learn to accept the consequences that come along with them. The good and the bad.
"Believe me, "thinking of myself", was noy the cause of me becoming withdrawn. I havr spent the majority of my life making sure others are happy before me."
So? What's wrong with that? That was YOUR choice, correct? You didn't have to do it. Stop blaming the external things.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.