Here's some reflection and journaling... I think I know how I can work on the character issues that need to be transformed in me to help me be happy and see how it impacts others. My personal goals:
-To work hard! Be a hard worker, not lazy in everything...even cleaning dishes etc.. -To be gentle in words and action...have a tendency to be loud and be impatient. Great verse in Bible "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." stop being harsh work on anger...just grew up screaming as communication -To be mindful and look after what's mine; family, job, .. -To alway look beyond: have a vision and direction to a destination
re: Sexual Detachment
This next part is mostly for the guys only and I have not seen this addressed on any threads:
If you are masturbating and thinking about your wife STOP IT. You are deceiving yourself into thinking she loves you and you are reconciled when it ain't the truth unless you are actually having sex with her!! Detachment becomes ten times harder because we connect thru sex...even pretend sex. Fantasizing is wrong too, but if its just in your head you can break those thoughts easier. I know because this vice has set me back from the advances I was making detaching.... so cut. it. out.
Am I right?
Me 42 W:35 M: 14yrs T:15yrs D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs BD: "I want a D"09/03/14 Sep: 30/06/14
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
