I am not "bashing her". Nor am I blame shifting. I am just presenting a balanced viewpoint of how a marriage can crumble.

If I seem to be derogatory about her, it is the behaviour she's adopted during our separation I am aiming at. She IS a betterperson than her behaviour shows.

I really don't want to progresd with divorce as I know it's not going to make either of us happier, than us both simply spending time together. For her to see that the life she left behind no longer exists.

If she won't do that, then I have no choice but to move on.

Believe me, "thinking of myself", was noy the cause of me becoming withdrawn. I havr spent the majority of my life making sure others are happy before me.

That's where the drop in respect occured

Last edited by RedHawk98; 06/09/14 05:19 PM.
Suspected EA: Feb 2013
Bomb drop: Mid March 2013
Separation: Mid April 2013
(I fought for marriage)
Filed for Divorce: April 2014
Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014