W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
She knows she risks losing the marriage by continuing to boink the OM but.....You can't lose what you don't value!!! She is done and is only waiting till the last kid graduates!!!
My IC hates my wife, I mean I feel a deep seated hate
The relationship coach who started out as our MC last year. Then we stopped seeing her in Jan. Then in early May became WS IC and then asked to see me and I have not broached that subject.
The divorce coach who now thinks we won't end up divorced told my wife she can't expect me to be in touch with her while she is away.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
I stopped for a while, but after reading DB I came back to the boards.
Listen to Starsky about what?
I am confused now.
I want to take a stand but a full on Plan B is next to impossible from where I stand right now,
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W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
So I am preparing for her return on Sunday. I am hoping to be out of he house fishing with my S16.
WAW did not tell me anything except she would be home late afternoon. She has some fear of me knowing to much.
She had told me her flight on 5-29 was a late night flight and I found out it was at 7pm.
Anyway I have found out so much stuff lately about the OM that I have to really try hard to keep my mouth shut and not throw it up to her.
I need to act indifferent when she comes home without appearing to be instituting some sort of Plan.
Will it be that obvious if all of a sudden I start to 180 her?
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
I need to act indifferent when she comes home without appearing to be instituting some sort of Plan.
Will it be that obvious if all of a sudden I start to 180 her?
From my perspective, Oxford, "indifferent" is pretty much how you have treated her in-your-face affair from the get-go, so NO -- I don't think she'll see that as a "180" at all, no worries.
Finding all of her stuff, boxed up and out on the lawn when she got home? Now THAT would be perceived as a "180!"
And with that, I feel like I'm just pretty much piling on now, or beating a dead horse, and that's not going to help you. I'll check back from time to time, Ox, and when you're ready for a stronger approach, I'll try to help you.
And with that, I feel like I'm just pretty much piling on now, or beating a dead horse, and that's not going to help you. I'll check back from time to time, Ox, and when you're ready for a stronger approach, I'll try to help you.
Good luck.
Starsky
Starsky
Thats the problem. My lawyers tell me I can not do that! I would love to be able to do that.
Maybe at the least I can move all her clothes into the basement (Its finished) and tell her that her New Apartment!!
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
Oxford, listen to Starsky. I had the same thought a few mos back- I can't legally kick her out of the house, can I? The truth was that I was afraid to actually take that stance because I was afraid of how W may react. When I finally got the nerve built up (thanks to Starsky and others) I calmly told W that I didn't want her staying at the house while she was involved with OM. SHE then had the decision of leaving or staying (no matter how uncomfortable that may have been for her). She chose to leave.
You need to take a stand for yourself and be an example for your kids.
