I did read those about 6 months ago, but the person they describe isn't me.
And yet "you" is somehow the man who wasn't good enough for her, and so she left you.
That is the thing we all must struggle with when we come here -- what is our true, authentic self, and does THAT man meet our wife's needs? And when he falls short, will she bravely work with us, or does she have some character flaw that shows that she would rather cheat on us and leave the marriage?
I personally find the Deida a very tough read, and have a hard time relating to him, RedHawk. But I think the "NMMNG" is exceptional, and I also love "Hold Onto Your N.U.T.S." Both deal with helping you figure out what you non-negotiable CORE BELIEFS are, and then how to operate within that framework -- rather than trying to be a "pleaser" who is somehow forever falling short of what it takes to hold onto a wayward wife.
I would urge you to not dismiss Theodeon's thoughts so quickly. Reading your sitch, and what you posted when you first came on here about "yeah, we had some minor problems, but . . . " gives me pause about what kind of guy your wife seems to really value.
