That stinks. When my H does stuff like, "I'm feeling tired lately, so instead of coming to see my D this morning, I'll get some extra sleep", which means he'll go several days without seeing or speaking to her, sometimes I think of it like this: "he is weak and I am strong. I am proud and blessed that I can be a strong, confident and capable mother to my D. I feel blessed that I've had this opportunity to learn how resilient and strong I really am."
In other words, I make it about me, not him, and I try to let go of the anger. I try to feed my strength, not my anger (because man oh man would that fire burn bright if I stoked it!!)
Not easy. But worth it in the end. Anger is like fast food-- cheap and easy. May taste good at the beginning, but is terrible for you. Personal growth is like kale. Harder to prepare and digest, but helps you grow stronger and so much better for you in the long run!
