Actually Mach. It's not that part of sales I brought home.
In the past months,as W and I discussed our M she took responsibility for only one thing. ( the rest she validated or justified). She apologized that when ever we enter a discussion on any topic and she disagreed she would fight until I either gave up and caved of as a last resort verbally withdraw any support for my choice. In effect leaving me alone in the responsibility. In sales when you know your not going to be heard by the person across the table you pack you bag and walk. You can only go so far. At home, and this was years into our marriage, I started to pack my mental bag. I knew there would de no give and take. There never was. I couldn't communicate with her verbally. Understand we had thousands of wonderful conversations but when it came to a topic that needed a decision I knew very well where I stood. So I stopped " sitting across the table". But I never stopped showing my love through action. And I never ever withdrew my support of her decisions. Half her choices failed. I didn't say " see wrong!!" I helped pick up the pieces and said no problem. It wasn't until much later that I started to resent having to pick up the pieces( this I own as all mine. And will never let it happen again not with her of my next R) But I didn't bring sales tactics to the marriage. Lol. No. That wasn't my style!
