Ok here we go

[GoatGal]

I just got on there this morning and I cw, I see you have been doing A LOT of reflecting.

Just from skimming all of this, I find myself saying: "He's getting it! Yep! RIGHT!!!!"

It's wonderful to read that things are sinking in for you. That it takes two to tango.
(Sure you can dance to your own drummer, nothing wrong with that, but it's more fun when there's somebody there with you!)

It also sounds a LOT like my marriage.

Now, everyone here knows I'm new and certainly no DBing expert.
But what I really know a lot about is my marriage, how I felt, what happened.

I don't know all the "whys" yet, but I've got the history down.
And a lot of what you're saying is setting off bells.

My husband has said that he will not discuss any of his feelings or reasons with me.

That he is "done" and as far as he's concerned, I've gotten my "closure".
He is going to divorce me.

End of discussion.


And I keep thinking, "IF he had only talked to me, shared with me... and even now... tell me something that makes sense."

It's not happening.

But we never really fought.

Ergo, I assume everything was A-OK, right? WRONG!

We never fought because he wanted to avoid any strong emotion or conflict. anything, (I think) that would make him look deep inside instead of blaming me..


So, cw, there's my "short" response! (Hahahaha! )

I'll read and post more later.

Good morning to you.

---GG