It's not about catching you out. It's about focusing on yourself. Honestly, you appear to have a very difficult time doing that and in responding you've mentioned how she feels about what you do.

PS3, housework and reading is a start. What do you do outside of the house? Do you have friends? Do you play sport? Do you have hobbies? Is there something you would like to do that you haven't tried yet?

Challenge: Answer these questions WITHOUT mentioning your wife.

Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014