Did you REALLY read my post to you? I gave you 40 SPECIFIC pieces of advice and you have not mentioned a single part of it.
I know you're hurt but if you can't focus enough to read those^^, you're not going to get anywhere.
Again, look at the "Rules" and finish the book.
Also, surely if your w is in the mental health field she knows there are resources available for her to make use of. She has issues to work on
So do you. Stop living in FEAR and start the "WORK" part of this. That means changing.
Not just saying "I can't do that" or '"I'm not like that"....
if you remain exactly as you are, your dynamic won't change and that means the marriage won't change.
Spouses who have doubts or who want out, only come back IF THEY BELIEVE
the marriage can be different/better, than before. How are you showing her that?
I did read your post and I have those rules saved on my phone, I had them like a month and a half ago.
I feel im too weak and I feel like as if if I do shout at her or something she will go. Ah its so hard to explain.
I just want to be happy.. i do all my best to make use of the advice everyone gives me trust me I do. Ive started doing my own activities and also GALLing as well but I feel like with the GAL shes going to say I havnt changed.
Im going to get the car and shes been very close to me.. if im being honest the difference I see now and before is a big difference.. I told her shes most likely going to stay with me because I dont think shes that heartless enough to ruin my life and she said but what do you think the reasons im going to stay are they going to be good.. I said no but thats where I come in.. she said I just hope I dont crack like I did again in a few years I dont want to keep going round in circles...
