For me, the thought of living with this guy who wants to divorce me, meanwhile pretending he's single while waiting for that to happen, rubbing my nose in his "freedom", new clothes, new bleached teeth.... I think for me that's a deal-breaker.
The first night he didn't come home I think I'd lose it, and all my DBing goes out the window.
But maybe you're more detached and more comfortable and can handle this well. If you can, then my hat is off to you! [/b]
GG, I definitely could NOT deal with this. But I really don't think this is my sitch. H has never said he wants a D, when directly asked he says he does NOT want a D. I can't imagine him 'playing single' either. Even though we're not living together I've seen no signs of this type of behavior. From everything he has said and done since BD (a lot of I have posted here but not every detail of course) I truly think he wants our family to stay together but he's very uncertain about his feelings for me. I think that's the biggest obstacle right now and in house separation might be a way to explore those better than physical separation. With a physical separation there is just far, far less opportunity to spend time together (esp with kids).
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
