Like a moth to flame

[Thornton]

I just finished reading Love Must Be Tough by James Dobson (again).

Good read, a lot of it directly corresponds to DBing. Basically "opening the cage door and setting your WAW/WAH free". Basically LRT, going dark, no contact.

He goes on to say that self respect is of the utmost importance. If we don't respect ourselves, who will?

It's so counter-intuitive that saving our relationship is basically doing the opposite of what we feel.

Looking back on my R with WAW, I used to be a fun loving guy, free spirited and spontaneous. Over time, I became reserved, controlling and too future focused (saving for a home, retirement etc). Basically I became no fun to be around. One of my 180's is to live life and enjoy each day as it comes.