In house separation?

[Barrybran]

Mdu, I feel that your H moving home is the perfect time to break out the transparency plan. "You want to move back home? Well, I'm serious about making this work so here's what's going to happen." Yes, he may decide NOT to move back home. I feel that this outcome would be better than him moving home, pushing past boundaries and you winding up at square one with your emotions again. If he does move back home after you've broken out the transparency plan, you know he'll be making an effort.

Just remember that the rules still apply if he moves home, except now he's around you a whole lot more. More opportunities for pursuit, more mindreading, etc. I believe it's more work (which isn't a bad thing) because you're being judged more: moods, actions, inactions, appearance, listening, etc. As I saw mentioned, yes, there are more eggshells but this is where working on yourself comes into play. If you're focused on yourself and open to your partner at the same time, you become stronger, more independent and you can live your own life confidently while sharing in your partner's.